My husband was constantly chiding me for being lazy. It was Sunday and unlike myself i was in no mood to go out. However much he tried that i change and get ready, i was stuck to the PC. Then the phone rang. It was his colleague who had just brought his family to Georgia. He had called to inform us that they would be visiting our place. I kept procrastinating until i heard the door bell. They were here and i was still like a mess. I dashed to the washroom as my husband rushed to greet them, ordering me not to take too long. My hair still wet, and feeling bad that i kept them waiting, i came downstairs. They were all sitting together. Greeting my husband's colleague, i turned towards his wife, and there she was!! A demure and tiny framed lady with quite modest looks. Honestly it was a shock to imagine both of them as husband and wife with the guy quite reasonably fine looking. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were constantly keeping their mom busy. After exchanging the pleasantries, the guys went to sit in an adjoining room. With a perplexed state of mind, i asked her about her interests and how she felt about moving to Georgia, all the while blaming myself why i was concentrating on her rather baggy outfit so much!! As she started explaining i listened carefully. She was an MBA from Dallas USA, had worked for a reputable company there before getting married in Pakistan, She had procreated two wonderful kids, had moved thrice for her husband's job while still looking after her children single handedly, and looked after her ailing mother in law. I was engrossed in the conversation as she was telling me how much excited she was about moving to Georgia. I asked if she thought it hard because of two small kids and she was like "Insaan ko hamesha positive sochna chahiyay" I thought with a shudder how hard it had been on me when i had to pack my whole house before moving and she had done it THRICE. She said another beautiful thing. "Inssan sari zindagi chezain akathi karta rahta hai. Eik din usay apni sab pyari chezain chorna parti hain. isi liyay Allah Talah nay chezain jama karnay say mana kya hai" Such a beautifull yet deep thought!!

We work hard for our comfort, collecting valuables from all over the world to cast an impression on onlookers. Then we become possessive about them thinking that we will always possess them. We do not share. And the irony is that we give them up in the end!!!

I realized how wrong i was to judge that girl from the outset. She was beautiful. She was a good wife, a loving mother, a caring daughter in law and a wonderful person. It was not her fault that Allah Tallah had bestowed her with little outward beauty. She was Allah Tallah's creation. To condescend His creation is to invite His wrath. "Allah mujhay maf karay" I prayed. And later while offering my prayers i thanked Allah for everything He has given me. I thanked Him for making me who i am, however much flawed.

It is only natural that whenever faced with an outwardly meek person, we always get biased or vice versa. I was aghast when i saw the whole world getting bowled over by Carla Bruni, the French president's new wife and a former super model. (Morally, however much bankrupt she may be is another story) The newspapers were pelting out articles after articles for her praise. We heard that she "outshone" the french president and so much so that the British Premier Gordon Brown requested her to teach British people how to be effortlessly stylish like herself. According to reports, she would fly back and forth from Paris to London for her new "assignment" HUH?? I found it amply hilarious.

American media is no different than this. Thousands of flawless pictures of celebrities adorn millions of sites and newspapers everyday with exaggerated details of their wherewithal. Enough for hearts to skip a beat or two. No wonder depression and suicide rate is climbing in America by the day. And we the under world nations, unable to catch up with them, are no less. Ostentation in marriage ceremonies is glaring. We need to slow down and eventually put a stop on this. This is a way to destruction. We are witnessing the destruction with our own eyes yet not ready to correct ourselves. Outward beauty is a sham. What lies underneath should be given credit!!

1 comments:

You write well, keep at it :)nice blog, the theme reminds me of my fave fruit green apples.

I added you to the blogroll!

April 12, 2008 at 10:57 AM  

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